Don’t get me wrong, I think fans are the most creative, inspiring people on Earth.

Fandom, on the other hand, sometimes just plain sucks.

When you saw this title, maybe you thought, “Looks like Lauren’s going to write about the drama-ridden X fandom.” But really, you could fill in that X with so many examples. Fandom wars and witch hunts aren’t just common, they’re basically a meme.

Fandom can bring us together to collaborate and create, but it can also bring out our most clannish tendencies and cruelest exclusionary behavior.

This is by no means a new idea. I browsed the “fandom sucks” tag on Tumblr and found a lot of fans who’ve got a bone to pick with fandom. Like this bisexual fan who is tired of being told queer characters don’t make sense, even in her fanfiction:

So you see, fandom, it comes to this: You are supposed to be a safe place. You are supposed to the oasis for all of the mismatched, marginalized, lonely nerd kids out there. But you aren’t. Not always, and not consistently, not for people like me.

Or this desperate plea from a Homestuck/hotel employee, reasoning with convention attendees to exhibit basic hotel etiquette like paying for the room with real money:

Please don’t stand in the lobby and cry or try to offer me ‘free art commissions’ or the horns off your Homestuck costume. My hotel does not accept those as payment.

Here’s the latest scandal in brony fandom, that’s just a lose-lose. First, a fan began impersonating another brony fan creator. That’s bad enough. Now though, bronies are looking for her, crying for blood—and the creator isn’t discouraging them. There’s a lot wrong here, from the girl taking advantage of fandom enthusiasm to take credit for somebody else’s idea, to the vigilante backlash that’s quickly getting out of hand.

These are just everyday rants, but there are also institutionalized examples. Take gamer fandom, always an easy target. Video game fandom has a big problem with misogyny, or so it appears, since every time a disparate voice pipes up it is quickly silenced in an avalanche of angry comments.

In reality, the fandom as a whole is OK with women (and about 48 percent of us ARE women). But the mob mentality of fandom distorts opinion. For example, the sexism Anita Sarkeesian faced likely became so consistent and standard because vocal misogynist fans believed that their opinions were in the majority.

A fandom can be like a political party or an organized religion. At its best, it’s a group of people united for their ideals. At its worst, it’s unbearable, a joke. It can motivate us to create our best work or to fight for a cause. Or it can give us an excuse to partake in close-minded beliefs or inappropriate behavior because “everybody’s doing it.”

I started writing this rant after working on a blog post called, “Why fandom rocks,” but it seemed so obvious. If fandom wasn’t mostly good, we wouldn’t be in it in the first place. For many of us, fandom was the first place we ever felt accepted or valued. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t still have problems.

What can we fans do to fix institutional problems in fandom?

(Screenshot of Ayase from Oreimo 2 demonstrating inappropriate convention behavior.)